Ignite The Desire

#47 How to Get Over From Anxiety and Stress Caused by Comparison with Raj Subrameyer

June 11, 2022 Episode 47
Ignite The Desire
#47 How to Get Over From Anxiety and Stress Caused by Comparison with Raj Subrameyer
Show Notes Transcript

Realize that Comparison is a Constant Thing

Whether you like it or not, there's always going to be a comparison. It’s not just the comparison with others, but also the comparison with yourself. Maybe there’s a skill that you can no longer do, or a change in your physique that makes you think that you were better in the past. It’s easy to get lost in the spiral of self-deprecation if you don't start with acceptance.

Comparison is an inevitable part of life and a never-ending journey. So the first step you can do is to accept comparison and start changing your perspective. 

In today's show

Raj Subrameyer is a tech career strategist focusing on helping people to land their dream job and become successful leaders. He has been featured in numerous TV segments, podcasts and publications. He is also the author of the book - Skyrocket Your Career.  

Here's a glance at this episode...

  • [03:44]  Overcoming comparison
  • [09:38]  How to find your passion
  • [16:01]  Overcoming limitations
  • [24:31]  How to Impact Others

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"You have your skills, you have your talents, if you don't get paid for it, you are not respecting your skill sets and talents. Is that the person you want to be?"

 Do you compare yourself to others? Does it bother you when someone seems to be doing better or has more than you? Or maybe someone else is comparing your achievements to others? 

Comparing can be toxic, especially since it can trigger anxiety and stress. In today’s episode, Raj Subrameyer and I are going to talk about career choices and the mindset to avoid anxiety and stress. 

Realize that Comparison is a Constant Thing 

Whether you like it or not, there's always going to be a comparison. It’s not just the comparison with others, but also the comparison with yourself. Maybe there’s a skill that you can no longer do or a change in your physique that makes you think that you were better in the past. It’s easy to get lost in the spiral of self-deprecation if you don't start with acceptance.

Comparison is an inevitable part of life and a never-ending journey. So the first step you can do is to accept comparison and start changing your perspective. 

Use Comparison to Fuel Your Growth 

Instead of viewing comparison through a negative lens, you can see it as a benchmark. To become a successful person, it is good to have a clear goal and set your strategies on how to reach that goal. 

You can also use this opportunity to focus on your strengths and what you want to do.  Find your niche — something that makes you different that gives you joy. Once you do, focus, and hone them. From there, you can start to figure out how you can make an impact through this skill and monetize it or even make a full-time business from it. 

Gain Some Skills Through Comparison 

You might be comparing yourself with social media influencers, and now starting to adopt their habits or practice their skills. Somewhere along the way, you must have gained a lot of useful skills that are applicable to your daily life. But becoming exactly like your role model may not be as feasible as you first thought. If you happen to fail, remember that just because you don't become that person, it doesn't mean that you’ve failed.

There is nothing instant. You can’t expect a drastic change to happen within a short period of time. You need to do the work and believe in the power of delayed gratification. The secret lies in consistency, where you go through each step of the process to eventually reach your goal.

“You need to show up every day and do the work, be consistent. And that's the number one key to success. Everyone started that way, and it takes time. So do the work.”